DISCLAIMER: This may be an unpopular opinion, but it is nevertheless mine

All these feminist movements I see in Lebanon are useless. Every culture has its own set of rules and customs, we should stop trying to import these movements from abroad and implement them here in our society. Those movements cannot achieve our desired goals. Those movements were built for a different life, for a different mindset. Leta��s stop trying to copy the west or stay the hell away from the east; how about we deal with our issues before attempting to fix the society as a whole?

Men and women are the result of our society. Leta��s face it: women can be just as sexist as men. Leta��s work on that.

Is it really a big deal if a man gives a woman advice about what to do or not to do? The a�?youa��re a man; you dona��t have a say!a�? argument seems invalid to me. What about some men being protective over women? Is it really that terrible to want somebody to be safe? Does it have to mean that women are weak creatures and cannot take care of themselves? Some women are protective as well, so what? People have personalities, and these personalities are not gender based… We have reached a point where it seems that whatever a person does he will be attacked. There is no winning. And by doing this, we are certainly going backwards.

Do you feel this extra tension between women? If a woman is sexually experienced she is labeled a slut. If she lets a guy pay for dinner, she is a gold digger. If she pays for dinner, she is being fooled because he will definitely use her and then dump her the minute he is satisfied. If a beautiful woman is raped, she must have asked for it. a�?How can men resist her and control themselves? She shouldna��t have worn that dress!a�? If a woman who was not drop-dead-gorgeous is raped, she should have taken more care of herself because the rapist was probably just trying to make her feel like the woman she is. If a woman cares about work, she is neglecting her family. If she doesna��t care about work, she is so selfishly expecting someone else to take care of her. There is no winning, even between women themselves. That is why we are stuck in our place.

Through unity there is power, and that is exactly what we lack.

We need to understand what it means for women to be as a�?freea�? as men are. Are we ready for that? Are we ready to shift the game of blame in cases of different forms of abuse? Are we ready for women to speak their opinions? Are we ready to accept that women have sexual needs and desires? Are we ready for an actual partnership? Are both men and women aware of what this entire thing means??? We need to start by reforming this society, building new roots, so we dona��t get taken away in the chaos we would cause when people are no longer viewed as genders.

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  1. I agree on the necessity of minds’ reformation. But why ‘All these feminist movements I see in Lebanon are useless’??
    At least they raise awareness, ask questions and let people think!
    And there are differences between the movements. Better not to generalize and create new stereotypes.

    1. ‘All these feminist movements I see in Lebanon are useless’: I stress on the “I see”, and it is an opinion drawn from what I’ve seen. I’m not generalizing, I’m specifying certain ones without naming them. We need a movement, yes, we need a human movement. We could get ideas from outside but we need to reform them to work in our society. Of course some movements do a great job and take the fight one step forward, I’m not underestimating that. All I’m trying to do is put some spotlight on the negatives, because, how else can we fix it if we aren’t aware of it?
      I’m talking out of experience of being involved in certain feminist movements here. When the funds are from abroad, when the paychecks are covered from those funds, I’ve seen people sadly lose aim and shift from the cause. Getting ideas from different historic movements isn’t a bad thing, but what worked 20 years ago in our country even wouldn’t work now anymore. That’s all I’m saying.

  2. I agree with the above comment and I ask one more question: why do you judge, Hermes, feminist movements in Lebanon to be the product of elsewhere? We had women fighting for their rights before Europe, since the late 19th c. And we had women priestesses and queens thousands of years ago.
    Every country and every culture has its own history and set of rules yes. But these rules change with time and policies, and cultures are not that closed to each other, there is dialogue and inspiration.

  3. Nevertheless, i do believe people are not yet ready for change, at all levels, in this country ! The majority !
    A minority is fighting but this majority is ‘dormant’ or drowning in violence.

  4. Very nice article, I totaly agree with it. Yes, people will always judge you event if you try your best to fit in, just be yourself. And fund that people tend to judge more women than men over their physical appearance in this society, and I do believe that everything can change if we start by teaching this value to our children in school, it’s because of this mentally of men do that, baby boy play with little car and girl with little barbie that we have this problems. But we can always change the mentality by teaching our children and it’s will become a new value.

  5. I whole-heartedly agree with every word you wrote here. You expressed my thoughts far better than I could have, thank you.

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